I read a great article today by Tim Keller. I have been easily offended by people in the past (there are some people I still take a lot of what they say the wrong way!) In terms of Church life the nature of my husband's job can make me more sensitive to negative comments. In the past I have made sure I withdrew from people telling myself that I don't have to listen. Nowadays, I try to be more calm about it and wonder if there is any truth in what they say. I am learning that I am not always right about everything, that others have their own opinion, and that you can be friends with people and agree to disagree. Life is a lot easier that way.
I am also learning that just because I am a Pastor's wife doesn't mean I need to put myself in an Ivory Tower and stay away from the rest of the world. Ivory is beautiful but cold, hard and not particularly comfortable. If I conduct my relationships in that way I am not going to get far. I want my tower to be soft and warm and big enough for others to share; and I want to be able to share theirs as well.